Can We Really Control Our Thoughts? Or Is That a Myth We Have Been Sold? Every day, thousands of thoughts pass through our mind. Some build us. Some break us. And most… just exist. We like to believe that our thoughts define us. That if we could just control them, we would finally become our best version. Calm. Focused. Successful. Unbothered. Sounds perfect, right? But here is the uncomfortable truth: If controlling thoughts was the key, everyone would already be winning . We have been taught that “positive thinking” is everything. Think good → feel good → become good. But real life does not work like a motivational quote. Thoughts are unpredictable. They show up uninvited. You do not schedule them. You do not approve them. One moment you feel confident, the next moment doubt sneaks in like it owns the place. So what does that mean? It means thoughts were never fully in your control to begin with. Then Why Do We Feel Stuck? Because instead of acting, we start ar...
A few days ago, I was teaching him( my lil 5 year old brother )chess. I taught him the basic moves of queen, king, pawns, bishops, knights, rooks . He listened with those wide, curious eyes. But who knows if he truly understood? Five-year-olds do not follow rules. They reinvent them. He started making his own rules. His own regulations. In his world, pawns moved like queens. Knights did what they felt like. And honestly ? The confidence with which he played.. you would think he could defeat grandmasters like Magnus or Gukesh. That fearless energy. That “I know everything” vibe. I realized something. What we think we are teaching… becomes something completely different in their minds. And maybe that’s okay. I expect nothing from him. But I promise to give him everything I can. It’s a privilege to be an elder sister.